I have been scarce, and putting off this post for sometime. I was quite worried what dedicated readers might think when they hear the news, considering I am after all, the Metropolitan Housewife. I have spent countless hours making my persona of a vintage loving, 50s inspired housewife. It pains me to think I may have failed at that, though I know now I have not, I am just moving on and making changes I need for me and my family.
So without further ado and because its quite clear what I am saying, I would like to reintroduce myself to you all as The Metropolitan Ex-Housewife.
Divorce is such an ugly word, and I can't help to feel shunned by people who disagree with my decision. I don't feel ugly, I don't feel wrong, I just feel free. I feel free to move on to a happy place, and mutually share my children with their father, who is still a good friend. I don't care to share details, but I am sure my future posts in my new apartment will strike some as odd, so I felt I should just address it up front.
I have kept myself quite occupied with packing and moving which has made it hard to find the time to blog. I want to make the effort to find time to share my new life with you all, because I find this silly little blog to be my solace. My children think of this all as a new adventure, and turn their new bunk beds into forts. They revel in the fact that they now have two homes, and two sets of everything lovely, like toys!
I am happy now, and I guess that is all to really say on the matter. (my kids look happy don't they.. HA!)
Also, do take note on my new chair (and matching couch!) I will be using it in my Etsy Photos at my new place because, well, it's to die for gorgeous!
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
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Divorce isn't an easy decision and shame on anyone that judges YOU for what you do with YOUR life.I know you tried but sometimes relationships despite our best efforts just don't work out.It is better for your kids to have a happy mom and dad that live apart than a mom and dad that are both miserable under the same roof.
You are so brave for sharing such a personal part of your life here. It inspires me to be just as courageous. I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm wishing you the best as you start this new stage in your life. :)
P.S. I agree with art deco dame too.
I can only wish to be as strong as you are being right now; for yourself and your children. It takes a lot of courage to lay your personal life out on the table like that but just know that, along with your blog comes a community of people who adore you just exactly as you are.
I had no idea what to say but I agree with art deco dame and the others! You are brave and you are also one of my favourite bloggers, regardless. I look forward to seeing pictures of your new place/life. All the best!
-Andi x
Good luck you you. I will continue to read!
You are just lovely and inspiring. I don't think you've failed at being a house-wife just because you're no longer a wife. You don't need a husband to take care of a home and your family like a housewife (: I hope that makes sense. Lmao.
I went through a divorce a few years ago and also have two children. I'm the one who left, and as a result I lost some friends because of it. I agree with art deco dame, Shame on anyone that judges you. Divorce is a very personal decision and you shouldn't have to defend yourself, especially to your blog readers. I love your blog and wish you the best!
I went through the same thing last year. I struggled about how to handle it on my blog because I too was a happy wife and all of a sudden, I was an ex-wife moving to Europe.
Divorce is a difficult decision and nobody's business but the people going through it. Some people will judge you, but they did not live your life day in and day out, and they do not deserve to voice their opinion.
I wish you happiness :)
Darling, when something isn't meant to be, it isn't meant to be, so why should we stick with it, it's better to move on and live happy lives! Best of luck to you and keep on writing, I love reading your blog! *^v^*
I don't think divorce is an ugly word. It happens and it happens for a reason and obviously you are now going to be much happier and better off :) And your kids look adorable I love your little girls outfit :))
Ain't nothing ugly about being happy, and sweetie, you look it! No one says you have to be a wife to be a domestic goddess! I say congrats on your new life, enjoy it :)
Don't feel shunned just because of other's ignorance. I'm pretty sure it was not an easy decision to make and reading your past tweets and posts I know you made a real effort to make it work but sometimes things aren't meant to be and it's not anyone's fault. The main thing now is that everybody is happy and that is what counts.
I look forward to reading your new adventures as you may not realise but you are quite an inspirational lady.
Here's to a New Year and New Beginnings x
Best to you and your darling kids. Looking forward to future posts!
It's always sad and difficult to make such a huge change and end an era, but it sounds like the situation is as amicable as it could be considering the circumstances, and I'm glad you have hope and optimism for the future. I agree with the poster who said you don't have to be married to be a domestic goddess - I am sure your blog will be just as enjoyable in future, and shame on anyone who would stop reading it over a thing like this.
All the best for 2011! *hugs*
The blog world is surprisingly supportive. You've always got friends and any of your real life friends that judge you, probably weren't your real friends in the first place. Keep your chin up! Most everyone I know that has been divorced turn out much happier in the end.
Sorry to hear this - but, like everyone else, I'm with Art Deco Dame. You are a strong woman and you do whatever you need to to make your life - and the lives of your kids - happy and healthy.
Best wishes for 2011! It's gonna be a great year! ^_^
I admire your courage in making a big decision - best of luck for the future.
For what it's worth, my parents stayed together for the kids - and, as one of the kids in question, I wish they hadn't. They got on well enough and their intentions were good, but I grew up assuming adulthood was an unhappy place and thinking love was just a fairytale. Your kids' happiness depends so much on your own, so do what makes you happiest.
I've been there, and it was a hard decision, but definitely the right one. If YOU know it's right for you, that's what matters. Your kiddies know they're loved by both parents, and lack nothing.
In the past there were fewer divorces, but still some of us
(my grandmother divorced her 1st husband in 1913!). Best of luck to you!
LOVE the chair! :)
SO PROUD OF YOU!!! xx.L
I've followed your blog for a while and I just want to say that I'm happy that you're making a change for yourself that's good for you. Only YOU know what can make YOU happy. May this new year bring you blessings and light. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support <3 I look forward to a wonderful 2011!!
Divorce is never an easy thing. Your brave to share your story, because you're right people can slip up & say hurtful things. I wish the best to you & your new life. :)
♥erica
I'm behind on my blogs and just read this. Stay strong sweetie! You, and only you, know what's best for you. Can't wait to read all your new single girl adventures! Good luck!!!
I'm very sorry to hear that things have gone sour with your marriage, but very happy to see how you are trying to live on in a positive mode. That must be extremely difficult to do and takes a lot of courage and strength to make a new life. I think it is great that you are making forts out of your kids' bunk bed! That's really cute!! They will definitely enjoy having fun with you and keeping their minds off of the issues. Divorce is hard on everyone, but it is not right if people are looking down on you at all for what has happened. I am sure you tried your best to work things out, and it is really nice to see that you can share such a very personal thing on the blogging world too! I think that is a huge step to take and I admire you for it. It is good that you have been able to form a continuing friendship with your ex-husband despite it all. That would be SO SO hard! I respect you. I look forward to your future entries. I was wondering why you were not posting too often but it is a very very very understandable situation why you haven't. With much love,
Victoria
No one should ever judge what makes another s heart happy and content. I wish you and your children nothing but happiness and a home full of love. You said everything with such grace and maturity, good luck to the next chapter in your book and all the exciting ventures in your new home!
xoxo~Syd
I love reading your blog, and this doesn't change that. I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. I wish you and your beautiful children much luck, love and happiness in your new journey. I look forward to hearing about your new adventures. Stay strong. And remember, you are an awesome mum! Sending you big hugs. :)
Good luck yo your decisions... I will pray for you...
*The Goads*
I commend you on your bravery in sharing such personal information. You're an amazing woman and an amazing inspiration to myself and i'm sure, legions of other vintage loving ladies around the world. I look forward to reading your posts in the future!
Twila, what a brave and courageous post. Thank you for sharing and I understand I have been there not once but twice and no it is not easy, divorce never is. I too agree with Art Deco Dame, nobody should judge you for they have not walked in your shoes. You and your children do look happy. I am so glad to see all of the positive and supportive comments from your bloggers...kudos to all of us. Take care of yourself (I know you will, you are taking a step in the right direction and you are strong). I am here for you if you ever want to chat or send me a message on FB. Sending lots of love and good thoughts to you and your children.
Love,
Brooksie
Divorce is a very hard thing, but sometimes it's the only way. And I admire all the women who choose to be happy and free.
I wish you and your beautiful kids all the happiness in the world.
I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I am going through the same thing right now. Sometimes I feel like I am the only single mother of a toddler, even though I know that's not true. So just know, you are not alone and I wish you the best.
Well done chicken, it must have been a tough decision but I am sure you have done what is best x
I wish you the best of luck in the future. I am sure that all will be well in the new year for you and your children!
I'm agreeing with everyone else - shame on the shamers! Sounds to me like you and your husband are putting your childrens' happiness first, and kudos to you both for that. Here's to an awesome 2011 for you all!!
Twila, I'm sort of a quiet reader, but wanted to say I'm sorry you and the kids are going through this. Doubtless it was not an easy decision.
It is also too bad people are trying to shame you.
It's sad that there are ppl out there judging you ,shame on them!
I don't always comment much but i always enjoy reading your blog.I think you have done the right thing by your kids and yourself.You have to be happy in yourself to be the best mum to your kids.
I wish you and your family all the very best for 2011:)
I follow your blog but rarely comment, but I'm so sorry to be reading this, yet am oddly in a similar situation. I realized this past summer my life was not going in the direction I wanted it to and in October I finally took steps to change that.
Don't let others make you feel bad for your choice -- it's your life and your decisions. You have a right to make a happy life for you and your children. After just celebrating my first holiday season alone I have been on an emotional rollercoaster, but reading your entry was inspiring and reminded me that there are others out there risking everything to make a better life. I wish you all the best in the new year.
I agree whit amongthechimneypots and the others. I'm glad you are handling this as two adults, far too many divorces end up in trying power combats between the parents. They are far too ocupied by their own feelings and unfinished emotional business.
Sometimes it's just better to let go and try to make the best of the situation and focus whats best for the children.You are a brave lady to choose hapiness and a new future. God luck to you!
Speaking from a kids perspective, we were 5 & 6 when my parents finally split. It was the BEST thing they could have done for us. I don't think they ever realised that we were lying in our beds listening to every word when they had their often violent arguments. No kid can be happy when their parents are sad. I don't know your circumstances, but suspect you've done exactly what you had to do, and good on you for having the courage to do it!
Happy NEW year to you.
Portia (Miss P)
xxx
I am so sorry to hear the sad news. Divorce doesn't change who you are. There are so many unhappy people "stuck" in bad relationships. You are so brave to take the next step. No kids want to see their mommy unhappy. I was really relief to see my mom getting out of her bad marriage and becoming happy. Good luck to you and your family. Looking forward to your feature posts!
Best of luck to you! I wish you and your loved ones much joy!
I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband are parting, but glad that you are searching for a happy life, and what you feel is best for you and your children. And it's great that you and their father are still close. I wish you strength through this time of transition in your life. It sounds like you are embracing the big changes and are already happier. And I'm with art deco dame - I think anyone who judges you for this is being selfish and unfair. The best of luck to you in this new year and new life!
It must be the season for such life changes, I was scheduled to have a fabulous vintage wedding in a bout a week and a half and early december my relationship ended. Its such a weird place to be in life, liberating yes but I still feel chained to the life i was about to start. Matters of the heart...choices that are never easy.
Regardless of whether you're a "housewife" or not, you'll always be on of the most stylist, retro bloggers! :) I think so often we bloggers tend to tiptoe around things like this that happen in real life--but it's very brave of you to just lay it out there so publicly. :) I admire your ability to do that!
Wishing you all the best!
♥ Casey | blog
I just saw this post and I just wanted to add my good wishes to you for what must have been a hard decision. My parents divorced when my sister and I were very young, and they have remained friends ever since, which is great and we never felt like we were from a "broken home" (though we joke about it). As a result I've always been a huge advocate of the amicable divorce over "staying together for the sake of the children". Divorce certainly isn't a dirty word (at least not in my life!), it's just the way things work out sometimes, two people who may have been right for each other at one time might grow in different directions.
Anyway, to all your friends and readers you'll always be a super stylish vintage mama!
xx Charlotte
Tuppence Ha'penny Vintage
I have been reading for a long time and just now felt like I had to comment... it gets easier. I promise.
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